Father Patrick Carrion, a priest for more than 40 years, has headed the Office of Cemetery Management for the Archdiocese of Baltimore for the past 15 years. And he always knew he’d eventually be described as someone who has seen and heard it all when it comes to questions about Catholic funeral and burial practices.
That doesn’t faze him. He’s more than happy to share what he’s experienced, and to clarify expectations for Catholic burials, handling of remains and ashes, and the pesky matter of eulogies.
Burying the dead is a corporal act of mercy. Everything centers on the belief in the intact body, since baptism makes individuals temples of the Holy Spirit. Catholic belief is that upon death, the soul meets God, and God gives incorruptible life to bodies by reuniting them with their souls.
Burials as they have been done in the United States for the past century – embalmed body, sealed casket in a concrete vault – are accepted, although Fr. Carrion points out that billions of coffins take up a lot of land and cemetery “perpetual care” means the land will never have another use.
His own preference – something he’s chosen for himself – is what’s called a “green” burial, in which coffin, remains and shroud decompose into the soil, with no embalming of the body. This used to be the only kind of burial in family graveyards and churchyards, although most cemeteries now don’t permit it out of concern for contaminating groundwater.
“It’s what our ancestors did,” said the pastor of St. Francis of Assisi, Shrine of the Little Flower, St. Dominic, St. Anthony of Padua and Most Precious Blood, all in Baltimore. “It’s not irreverent to bury someone on top of someone else.”
So-called “composting burials” are legal in just seven states. In these, the body is converted to soil after first being placed in a sealed chamber with water and chemicals which are then heated in a process called alkaline hydrosis. This reduces the body to bone fragments.
This is “just totally unacceptable to us,” Fr. Carrion told the Catholic Review, Baltimore’s archdiocesan news outlet. “It’s just dissolving the body. At least with ashes, there’s something to bury.” A composting process “is saying that the body never existed.”
Which brings us to cremations and urns.
Cremated remains are considered the same as intact bodies – cremation was first permitted by the Vatican in 1963 and has been part of canon (Church) law since 1983.
But urns are to be placed in mausoleums or columbariums, not kept at home, and cremated remains are not to be scattered or split up.
It’s a question that often comes up, Fr. Carrion said.
“Sometimes people want to put parts of the ashes into earrings or necklaces,” he said. “You’re treating the deceased as if it is a possession of yours. You don’t possess people.”
Human remains, he pointed out, are “for the whole people of God.”
Each November, the month of All Souls, the archdiocese, through the Ministry of the 14th Station of the Cross, buries urns in a single vault at Holy Cross Cemetery in Anne Arundel County, Md. There is a minimal fee of $350.
This mass inurnment – each urn is handled individually in the rite – comes from many sources other than families, since authorities call Fr. Carrion’s office when urns are found in abandoned houses, and on one occasion, in the trunk of a car that was about to be demolished at a scrap yard.
Twice a year, Fr. Carrion’s office also holds services for collective burials, in a marked gravesite, of miscarried babies, provided by hospitals upon request of the parents.
“It says to us as Catholics that this was a person from the moment of conception,” Fr. Carrion said. “It gives families some closure.”
Eulogies are always a contentious matter. Simply put, they’re not part of the funeral Mass, and they’re “what most priests will talk about as a difficult hurdle,” Fr. Carrion said.
“That’s not what our ritual is meant to be,” he explained, noting that the ritual says that eulogies should occur at the wake, although most people still want them at the church.
If families strongly desire eulogies at the funeral Mass, Fr. Carrion asks them to take place before the body is brought into the church, as an extension of the wake, and he sets a five-minute limit on a eulogy, which is easy to calculate. A full typed page, double-spaced, takes two minutes to read. So two pages is the maximum and Fr. Carrion usually limits the number of eulogists to two.