The Intermountain Catholic asked three priests in the Diocese of Salt Lake City what they consider to be key to a successful marriage. Their answers follow.
The Most Rev. John C. Wester, Bishop of Salt Lake City:
"Couples need to know that they’re entering into something that needs a lot of work. They can’t just expect a good marriage to happen. They need to pray for the grace of open communication and to overlook minor offenses. Their covenant to love each other in Christ is what drives their love, and they need to keep this as a priority."
Monsignor Robert Bussen, pastor, Christ the King Parish, Cedar City:
"Every day you should say something positive and affirming to the person you love. We are dumb. We believe everything we’re told. If I tell you that you never listen and you’re ugly and you don’t like me, then I won’t like you. But if you tell me I’m beautiful, if you tell me I’m handsome, I’ll believe you, and I’ll shine."
Father Ken Vialpando, pastor, Saint Joseph Parish, Ogden:
"Couples should recognize that God is part of their marriage. God has to be the head of the household. A couple has to bring him in, not just as an unseen guest, but as the owner of the house, the one who’s in charge of the wedding and the marriage."